Quotes by Shannon L. Alder

Some women are built by the fire. Yet, there are some that are the fire!

Being different is a revolving door in your life where secure people enter and insecure exit.

Act with God's compassion, mercy and forgiveness in mind and you will always be right. Act with revenge in your heart and you will always be wrong.

There is no amount of bad karma that can compete with a contrite spirit and God's forgiveness.

Forgiveness happens when you stop wishing for someone else to become what you want them to be.

You will know you are healed when the person you use to hate becomes the person you feel sorry for.

Sometimes we write to always remember how close we were to losing our soul.

Every day of healing will be like battling a ghost in your head. They never leave you alone, until you can forgive.

You can forgive someone and still think they are an asshole. Forgiveness doesn't change what a person is, it only changes you.

Kindness is as simple as being grateful for the love anyone has shown you, by not destroying them because it isn't on your terms.

You will finally have dignity when you realize that you are not on the path, but have become the path for others.

Gratitude can't grow love higher than regret.

Chasing a person doesn’t give you value or build values in you. You earn your value by chasing morality and practicing dignity.

The greatest lesson you might ever learn in this life is this: It is not about you.

Spirituality has a language of it's own and some people haven't learned to speak it.

Kindness is loaning someone your strength, instead of reminding them of their weaknesses.

Being kind to someone, only to look kind to others, defeats the purpose of being kind.

It is not the hand that rocks the cradle that rules the world; it is the woman that holds the keys to the kingdom.

A best friend is the one person that doesn't leave you worse off by their actions or yours.

Before you call yourself a Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, Hindu or any other theology, learn to be human first.

Happiness is something that you establish before a relationship. It is not the relationship that establishes it first.

When someone you love makes compassion, kindness, forgiveness, respect and God an option, you can be sure they have made you an option, as well.

Every relationship that has hit a crossroads has asked, what is it that you want from me?

When a man plays with your heart it is for one of two reasons: He knows he can or he is undecided.

Every journey taken always includes the path not taken, the detour through hell, the crossroads of indecision and the long way home.

Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another, I want to know why!

If you haven't cried at least once while writing a chapter of your inspirational book, then you have to ask yourself if your're writing fiction.

Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another. Why can't you see who I truly am?

Lies don't end relationships the truth does.

Dignity will only happen when you realize that having someone in your life doesn’t validate your worth.

Insanity is everyone expecting you not to fall apart when you find out everything you believed in was a lie.

A posted quote is nothing more than a window into a person's soul.

Many of the most powerful things in life are not tangible. All it takes is for you to close your eyes to see.

Living a life somewhere else in your mind is nothing more than being a prisoner where you are.

In the end, what will you fight for what got there first, what got there last or what has been there all along?

All great beginnings start in the dark, when the moon greets you to a new day at midnight.

Delusions are hardly an escape from reality. It’s a way of understanding insane people living in a backwards world.

Sometimes the bridges you burn light the way out of your darkness, but the memory of the blaze will be burned into your heart and mind forever.

Sometimes the simplest solution out of conflict is becoming someone’s friend, instead of saying goodbye forever.

If you never learned to hold onto someone, how could it possibly hurt now to let them go?

Words don’t have the power to hurt you, unless that person meant more to you than you are willing to confess.

Sometimes you have to walk through the fire, in order to reach your calling.

Her wounds brought her a great source of power because they lived in the same place as her heart.

You're only a victim to the degree of what your perception allows.

I would fight every angel between us until God said, "Yes".

Hope combined with action is the only thing that will bring you contentment.

I am not afraid to die; I am only afraid of saying goodbye to you forever.

Fear is the glue that keeps you stuck. Faith is the solvent that sets you free.

If you don’t know what you value in life, then you won’t be able to make any meaningful decisions you can live with in the future.

All roads out of hell lead home.

You don’t go to church to find God; you bring him with you—attitude.

It is through strength of character, not luck, do we form the predictable path of our future.

I praise the day I reach the end of my rope. That is the day true change can take place.

No one can change a person, but a person can be the reason someone changes.

No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person that loves their self and others.

People that don't know what they are worth will always see their capture's wings, but never their tail.

The people that truly love us in life don't fight for us to remain a doormat for others.

To love someone with all of your heart requires reaching them where they are with the only words they can understand.

Freedom isn't free.

Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.

Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life.

One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.

Art is nothing more than creating an emotion in your own form.

Seize the wind," I whispered. "Don't become the kite that never flies.

The true definition of mental illness is when the majority of your time is spent in the past or future, but rarely living in the realism of NOW.

Somewhere between love and hate lies confusion, misunderstanding and desperate hope.

Living a life of success is not the same as living a life of purpose.

Life always begins with one step outside of your comfort zone.

Your actions will always be what the world sees, but people who choose to see through God's eyes will always have the compassion to understand why.

Communication is the one class no one graduates from. Even the wisest man's words will be misinterpreted by a fool.

If there was any great lesson in life it was this: No battle was ever won with silence.

When you lose your ego, you win. It really is that simple.

You can’t selectively numb your anger, any more than you can turn off all lights in a room, and still expect to see the light.

A friend is not the shadow that mimics you, but the one who casts all shadows away.

The only way to move from your reality to God’s reality is through people who love you.

It is not until you change your identity to match your life blueprint that you will understand why everything in the past never worked.

The most intriguing people you will encounter in this life are the people who had insights about you, that you didn't know about yourself.

Happiness is always on the other side of being teachable.

Your most important “want” should be the one you can control!

When you think this pain is all you deserve, you are right. You are the only one that can decide how long you will walk in hell.

People who fit don’t seek. The seekers are those that don’t fit.

The only real battle in life is between hanging on and letting go.

Some stories have to be written because no one would believe the absurdity of it all.

Imagine living with a scream inside you and that scream is yours. Now imagine no one hears it. That is what grief is.

Beauty is not who you are on the outside, it is the wisdom and time you gave away to save another struggling soul like you.

The most confused you will ever get is when you try to convince your heart and spirit of something your mind knows is a lie.

When you loved someone and had to let them go, there will always be that small part of yourself that whispers, "What was it that you wanted and why didn't you fight for it?

A best friend is the only one that walks into your life when the world has walked out.

There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.

If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.

One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself